10 Great strategies to be more successful in life
1. YOU EITHER GET IT, OR YOU DON’T
Thomas Watson the chairman for IBM once said “I think there is a world market for maybe five computers” – do you think he got it?
I see life as a game and those people who get how the game is being played by those around them will find more success in their life. And example would be one that I give my son – “If you simply spend 30 minutes per day doing the things that your mum and I expect from you, then we are going to give you much more space to do the things you want – does that sound like something you might like to consider?”, and he either gets it and plays the game, or he doesn’t.
2. LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE IT
“The mind is everything what you think you become” – Buddha
People can be happy in jail, whilst others can be unhappy in paradise. We get to pick the narrative for our life and that narrative will determine how we behave which then determines what we attract and what we push away. We often hear people talk about a lucky bounce in a game of rugby league – but the bounce is only lucky if the player has done the work to put themselves into position to take advantage of the bounce. If they merely remained still and didn’t chase the ball when it is kicked then the bounce would never have been a lucky bounce..
3. PEOPLE DO WHAT WORKS FOR THEM – EVEN IF IT DOESN’T
“Poverty is a result of choices not of poor luck” – Celso Cukierkorn
Have you ever seen someone who keeps doing the same thing over and over but it just isn’t working like it should. You can see it, everyone else can see it, but for some reason they just don’t see it for themselves. Somehow they have the delusional belief in their mind that it is giving them something that they want. Take for example people who self medicate with drugs and alcohol. It is giving them reprieve from the painful thoughts they are currently experiencing but when tomorrow comes the painful thoughts will be back with an upgrade.
4. NOTHING CHANGES UNTIL YOU TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
“More people would learn from their mistakes if they weren’t so busy denying them” – The Gottman Institute
You cannot learn to ride a bike until you make it your responsibility to take the actions which allow you to learn how to ride a bike. Sure someone else can put you on the bike and push you – but sooner or later you have to accept that it is up to you if you want to learn the skill.
5. LIFE REWARDS THOSE WHO GET INTO ACTION
“It’s easy to dream about it, but much harder to execute it” – Gary Vaynerchuk
People everywhere have dreams – and if having a dream was enough then they would have achieved the dream. The reality is most people with dreams fail to ever take the appropriate action steps required to make the dream a reality. To get from one end of a pool to the other it is not enough to simply dream about it – sooner or later you actually have to get into the pool and start swimming in the right direction. If you don’t know how to swim find someone who does and have them teach you.
6. THERE IS NO REALITY, ONLY PERCEPTION
“Thoughts become perception, perception becomes reality. Alter your thoughts, alter your reality” – William James
Ask ten people leaving the theatre what they thought about the movie and what they liked or disliked about it – chances are you will get ten completely different responses. Ask me to describe the colours in a garden and chances are it will be nothing like yours – unless you are colour blind like me – and chances are we will still see something different. Two people get on the very same roller coaster ride – one of them loves it the other hates it. It is the same with everything in life. People see and experience things in their own way – and neither way is reality – it is merely their very own perception.
7. LIFE IS MANAGED – NOT CURED
“The problem is not the problem; the problem is your attitude about the problem” – Captain Jack Sparrow
We cannot avoid (cure) all the challenges and obstacles in life – all we can learn to do is manage them. The more effectively we are at managing them the quicker they go away. When we spend time avoiding, complaining, and whinging the more chance they have to stack up and overwhelm us. Most people see them as problems – but they only become problems when we do nothing about them and fail to manage them effectively.
8. WE TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT US
“People treat us the way we teach them to treat us” – Wayne Dyer
If you want people to respect you – then you have to first respect yourself. People will mimic our behaviour we show towards ourselves and the things around us. It is also very difficult for someone to be happy and friendly towards you when you are always angry and unfriendly towards them – eventually they will just start behaving the same way towards you. Take note of your own behaviour towards the next nasty person you meet – what sort of behaviour do you think you might respond with in return?
9. FORGIVENESS IS POWER
“Forgiveness liberates the soul, it removes fear. That’s why is is such a powerful weapon” – Nelson Mandela
People often struggle with forgiveness and doom themselves to a life of suffering. The problem is they believe forgiveness is about letting the other person off the hook for their actions – but it is not. Forgiveness is about detaching oneself from the pain and suffering they hold onto. Other people can screw up parts of your life – but you are in control off how much of it you carry with you into the future.
10. YOU CANNOT CLAIM IT IF YOU DON’T NAME IT
“The tragedy of life doesn’t lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in having no goal to reach” – Benjamin Mays.
Can you please pass me the ______. I am the best in the world at ______. We cannot ask for something or claim to be the best at something if we don’t even know what that something is. It is the same with life – we cannot claim a successful or unsuccessful life if we cannot even describe what success looks like. We often hear people talk about being unhappy, but yet they cannot describe what happy would look like – so how can the possibly be the opposite of something when they do not even know what something is? In order to achieve (claim) something we must be able to name it and describe its characteristics otherwise we are chasing —- nothing!!!